Thu 3 Jan 2008
Minor, like many near-two-year-olds and the Old Testament God, smites people when angered. We have been working with him (Minor, not the Lord) on more appropriate expressions of anger, like using his words. Lately he has figured out another alternative on his own for showing displeasure: he spits. It’s not an offensive maneuver (in the military sense), but rather, a commentary.
For example, we are in the car and Minor spots the ubiquitous Dunkin’ Donuts logo.
Minor: Donuts!
Me: We are not stopping for donuts today.
Minor: [spitting noise] Thpit!
I especially love the explicit performative “Spit!” calling my attention to what he is doing, as if to say, “I spit on your refusal!”
We should probably coach him out of the spitting, but as a two-year-old he has so few socially acceptable options for showing anger that I’m reluctant to extinguish a non-violent one. I suppose we should count ourselves lucky that we just have to endure a little saliva. The Almighty made it rain for forty days and forty nights when He got mad.
January 4th, 2008 at 11:29 am
at least he’s expressive. love it.
January 9th, 2008 at 2:06 pm
How about unsolicited parenting advice — always the best, right? We have three rules in our house: no hits, no fits, no spits. They can be interpreted to mean don’t smack your sister, don’t spit in anger, and don’t throw yourself on the floor and whine like a crazed animal. But it works, and my girls could remember those three rules, if nothing else.